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How-To: Work Out with Your S.O./BFF

How-To: Work Out with Your S.O./BFF

After talking about why we work out together, we wanted to extend some help on how to make it work. Zach has competed in Strongman, CrossFit, Powerlifting, and Bodybuilding. On the other hand, I simply like to lift weights to help me feel strong and stay active. He’s been lifting since the age of 16. I’ve been lifting for 2 and a half years. HOW can we make this work?

 

  1. Scale the workout: This is a popular CrossFit term, but it basically just means making the same workout accessible to two different people, based on strength and skill level. That way, you’re both working the same muscle groups and “suffering” together. An example:
    • 5 rounds:
      • 200m farmers carry: He used 65lb DBs in each hand, I used 25lb DBs
      • 20 push-ups: He did push-ups, I did incline push-ups on a tire
      • 10 DB push jerks: He used 60lb DBs, I used 25lb DBs
  2. Partner workouts: Choose a set of reps and movements. Person A completes as many as they can of the movement until he/she can no longer go. Once person A puts the weight down to rest, person B carries on with as many as he/she can handle, until you reach the total reps. This past weekend, we tried working it out a different way. We shared some of the equipment and just took turns until each person completed:
    • 30 hang power cleans
    • 60 kettlebell swings
    • 30 step-ups each leg
    • 60 goblet squats
    • 60 dumbbell snatches
    • 60 abmat sit-ups
  3. Separate between being the S.O./BFF and being the coach: This was certainly a tricky one for me having been a coach/personal trainer for the last six years. I am very accustomed to pushing people, correcting form, and well….being a coach or a teacher in the weight room. I am not so accustomed to having a workout partner that just wants to have fun, get stronger and get their heart rate up. This is a very fine line. My wife is a badass…but she really doesn’t have any aspirations of competing or trying to set any state or national records. She does this because she knows it is important to me, but she has also grown to love it. Your S.O. may not want to be a National Champion, they just want to have fun and spend time with you. If your partner looks like they are going to hurt themselves or they are really missing the mark with form or technique then absolutely (respectfully) correct them and offer them advice. But do remember: they are there for their own reasons and their own motives that must be respected and appreciated.

 

LAUREN: Top // Shorts // Shoes // Watch ZACH: Top //Shorts // Shoes // Socks // Watch

Do you have any tips for working out with a partner? If so, comment below! We’d love to hear what works for YOU!

4 reasons to work out with your S.O./BFF

4 reasons to work out with your S.O./BFF

 

These days, we tend to think we have found the perfect balance of working out together vs. apart. Some people may have ZERO interest in “fitness-ing” with a partner, but for us, it really makes a difference! We each listed our top 2 reasons to work out with a friend/spouse, partner.

  1. You have someone to check your form: While your partner may not be certified as a trainer, it still helps to have someone to look at your form while working out. A second set of eyes may notice that you’re not hitting squat depth, that your hands are spaced unevenly, or that your posture needs correcting.
  2. You have a reason to push that extra mile: I mean that in a figurative way, because you won’t catch me going any miles. Zach is super helpful when he tells me that a lift looks way easier than it may feel to me. If the bar is moving faster than I think it is, it motivates me to put more weight on. Another one of his tricks is to slide weights onto the bar that he knows I can handle and not tell me how much I’m lifting. If I brace myself to lift heavy WITHOUT the mental struggle of having a goal in mind, I can usually gear myself up to do something I wouldn’t otherwise do.
  3. You have great motivation: Some days it just isn’t there for me. Whether its been a long day, the caffeine isn’t kicking in or weights just feel way too heavy. When those days come around, it’s great to have someone to either share your seat on the struggle bus, or pull energy from. Sometimes neither of us are in the mood to push it but once we get going we tend to build off of each other. Lauren is like the “Energizer Bunny” and seems to gain steam the longer we go, this usually forces me to want to keep up with her. Other days I don’t want to do anything, but I will see her pushing the weights or pace and hitting a PR and that motivates me to throw more weight on the bar and go for it!
  4. You have encouragement when you fail: This is a big one for me, sometimes that bar feel too darn heavy, or I get out of position because of tightness or my technique fails. Like most of us, I can get frustrated pretty easily and want to just say “Screw it!!”. Lauren does not let me get away with this one (unless I’m putting myself at a risk for injury) and will be the first one to call me out and tell me “you’ve got this, take another crack at it.” Even if that means 3, 4, 5 more cracks at it. Even if I wind up not hitting the weight in the end, at least I know that I gave it my all, and that my wife believed in me and pushed me to empty the tank!

You can find the top I’m wearing here: http://shopstyle.it/l/iDAC

The pants are old, but I linked the current style here: http://shopstyle.it/l/iDDg

 

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